Strong opinions are seductive because they seem like a confident and positive path. In times of crisis, you look toward people with these attributes to find a way out of the mess you’re in.
However, there’s a way to exploit this trust. You can hack other human beings just like you can hack computers, and one way to hack both is to create a false authority. Act like you’re confident and positive, and people are seduced by your strong opinion.
There is always a strong seductive influence to the ideology that pairs (a) victimhood, or the sense that your lack of something was done to you by someone else, and (b) revenge, or the notion that if you just take that something back, everything will be OK again.
Feminism is one such ideology. You have to be a true idiot to believe it, which is why they preach it at you constantly through multiple sources (Hollywood, academia, media, social pressures, government). Slowly they seduce your brain with this victimhood narrative.
But it’s an easy ideology to believe because it relieves you of the burden of solving your own problems and finding your own path in life. Instead of thinking, “What must I create in order to make my life meaningful?” you are thinking in terms of a pre-defined narrative, the intellectual equivalent of a TV dinner.
In this narrative, you have been wronged and all that matters is getting back what you deserve. Does this sound like a familiar plot? Over half of all Hollywood movies use it. Almost all American-style wars use it. Just about every #occupy-style protest uses it. Neo-Nazi groups use it. Whether it’s the banksters, the Jews, men, the popular kids, evil dictators or the rich, someone did this to you and you must crush them and get it back.
What they never mention is that very few things in life are actually tangible things. For example, the prosperity of a country. This is not a huge hoard of gold sitting in a bank somewhere. It’s a complex interaction between leaders, workers, planners and knowledge workers that produces an end result on a continual basis. You can steal a farm, but can you then work that farm and make wealth from it? Those who seized farms in Zimbabwe learned the hard way that it’s not as easy to make wealth as to seize the means by which others can make it.
Unlike most MRAs, I’m not bitter toward women. I recognize that the quality of women varies. Some women are faithless sluts, while others are not, and the proportion is about the same as it is in men. Most people are chaff who cannot make a strong decision on their own, and so they are faithless whores to whatever idea flits across their screens.
Unlike most PUAs, I realize that sex does not equal manliness. Further, I’ve seen enough of life to realize that sex is not what I want out of a woman. Spending my life chasing after poontang makes me a slave to the whores, not someone who rose above and saw the bigger situation, which is that most men who have red blood want a woman who is a battle-comrade, true comrade and partner in making a family.
However, I do recognize that feminism is bunk and that most MRAs are acting to affirm feminism rather than dethrone it. Feminists want women to have no obligation to men; MRAs want the same thing. Both use the same method, which is destruction of marriage and the family. The result is a lot of lonely women and men who live alone in bitterness, having been deprived of the joy of family.
I don’t expect I’ll convince a lot of people. Strong victimhood narratives are more seductive than what I have to preach, which is self-reliance and a journey of self-discovery and adventure in creating a place for yourself in life. Yet I know that in ten years’ time, those who take my advice will be much more satisfied than those who deny it.
Victimhood is the prize and the coin of the realm in a liberal landscape. It’s the power position because, as James Burham wrote decades ago, “the liberal is morally disarmed in the presence of anyone he judges less well off than himself.” Once attained, what group would willingly give it up?
Marriage and family don’t always equate to hapiness. That’s in any era of any civilization. Sure, there’s a disconnection between men and women but people are liberated from gender roles now, and that’s good thing. Being free to do what one wants is what makes the world so great! If a male or female wants to be single and screw their lives away, then that’s their perogative.
Culture and values are cool for some but not for all and we must support those who choose to freely screw around.
“Culture and values are cool for some but not for all and we must support those who choose to freely screw around.”
Support them? Why? I see no good reason to support people who just want to “screw around”, and by that I am assuming you mean having lots of sex. People who fuck a lot have something missing inside of them, like a giant black hole in the middle of their soul. There is nothing wrong with being single, but I’d rather find a woman that I can love and be with to share the good moments in life.
Gender roles were a good thing to a certain extent. It organized society in a subtle way that didn’t need any legislation. It was simply tradition, and it simplified things. Now, with the triumph of recent feminist inroads to our education system and media, women are encouraged to sleep around, have limitless abortions and act “independent”, which I suppose means rejecting a life of motherhood and children for a life of desk-work-despair. That is not freedom. That is a type of toned down, self-induced slavery.
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Victimhood = femininity. Or infancy. The narrative fits both your older childhood dreams when you were powerless, and your fatherly instincts that want to do right for your kids, and your white knight instincts which want do protect and do right to women. Victimhood means a clear, visible enemy, a clear goal, something easy to fight against and to fight for. When theres a victim theres someone bad. Revenge turn things around.
This stuff sells. The instincts in the narrative are as deep as sex.
I think the other stuff that sells are pleasure and winning glory. If we´re to do stuff without the revenge / victimhood meme, pleasure and glory, or, orgasm, has to be the narrative. Is probably going to be mine.
Thank you for an appropriately-timed reminder. Lately, I have been digging myself too deeply into the “men are victimized by feminism” meme. It’s an observable truth, but I’m beginning to wonder if feminism vs. men’s rights advocacy are becoming two sides of a counterfeit coin.
I have no children, never married, and at nearly 60 I’m old enough to put “marriage with children” aside. I have my own dreams to follow, haven’t I? I’m comfortable with my life as it is, although I regret the toxic environment between men and women and I resent the “entitled empowered victimized oppressed princesses” who apparently drive this toxicity. But if I “ridge up” against this Feminist Foe, set my efforts against them and hunker in the bunker while preparing my own assault, am I not “victimizing” myself needlessly? Haven’t I got better things to do? Oh hell yes.
I need to pay more attention to my own goals and my own dreams, and put more of my efforts into those rather than into The Fight Against Femmunism. Again, thanks for the reminder!
Actually feminism is not based on the femininity, that is the fact what we must keep in mind. Feminism is full of lies about the sexuality. Feminism is not for real women who are feminine and sensitive to understand the masculinity of men and male sexuality. Feminism is existing and growing just because of the gender hypocrisy is there in the society. Gender hypocrisy makes a good environment for feminism to grow and it helps feminists to mislead the whole society.
I always fear that in the battle against “victimhood”, eventually what some will gain is disdain for victims entirely. Know where it is just. Don’t blame the victim, but do so out of empathy and not enforcement. Mr. Stevens, as always your ideas are dangerous in the hands of the selfish and ignorant.
Victimhood has been subverted to become this power position EssEm. It is not so inherently. Never harden your heart, if you are just you will never need to.
As are any ideas which take an actual stand. Neutral or do-nothing ideas are “safe.”
However, consider this: the manipulative few are vastly outnumbered by the sentimental many. It’s easier to produce saps for parasites than vicious manipulators.
“Some” may, but it’s unlikely that this will be widespread. An honest victim (old lady pushed over by a thug) is rarely overlooked, at least around here. What we could use are fewer parasites, since they always disguise themselves as victims.
Off-topic, but just click on any one of the subjects on the list, and be amazed at the mania that women buy into these days:
http://betcheslovethis.com/?q=betch-list
“most men who have red blood want a woman who is a battle-comrade, true comrade and partner in making a family”
This is it. There is no more.
Life/Marriage is a war. Constant battles. Choose a warrior as your partner, you will be fine.
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